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Writer's pictureDebbie Heneghan

Mirror, Mirror: Understanding External Influences


Reflecting and understanding External influences

Welcome back, fellow travelers! As we continue our journey of internal drive and motivation, our next stop is the Mirror Mirror rest stop. Here, we’ll reflect on how external influences affect you and either 1) help you maintain a clear, confident self-image, or 2) throw you off course. It’s important to recognize how societal pressures and other people’s opinions impact your decisions. By understanding these influences, you can better stay true to yourself and make choices that align with your personal values.


The Impact of Understanding External Influences

Impact of understanding external influences

External influences come from various sources, including societal norms, cultural expectations, family, friends, media and so much more. While some influences can be positive, others may lead you away from your true self, causing internal conflict, creating within you the lack of remembering who you are as your unique beautiful self, and many other things you do not want to bring into your life.


Recognizing and Understanding External Influences

Recognizing and understanding external influences

Understanding the impact of external influences starts with recognizing them. Here are some common sources:


1. Societal Pressures

Society often dictates certain norms and expectations, such as career success, physical appearance, and lifestyle choices. These pressures can shape your goals and behaviors, sometimes leading you to pursue paths that don’t align with your heart’s desires or your Truth.


2. Cultural Expectations

Cultural background can influence your beliefs and behaviors. While cultural values can provide a strong sense of identity and community, they can also impose limitations on individual expression and personal growth. 


3. Family and Friends

The opinions and expectations of family and friends can significantly impact your decisions. While their support and guidance can be beneficial, it’s essential to ensure that their expectations and personal views don’t overshadow your own heart, desires and values.


4. Media and Social Media

Media and social media play a powerful role in shaping perceptions and expectations. The constant exposure to idealized images and lifestyles can create unrealistic standards and pressure to conform.


Reflecting on Your Influences

Reflecting of yourself

Taking time to reflect on how these external influences affect you is crucial for maintaining a clear self-image and making authentic choices. Here are some steps to help you reflect:


1. Identify Your Influences

Make a list of the various external influences in your life. Consider societal norms, cultural expectations, family and friends’ opinions, and media influences. Reflect on how each of these influences affect your thoughts, behaviors, and decisions. 


2. Evaluate Their Impact

Assess whether these influences have a positive or negative impact on your life. Do they support your personal growth and well-being, or do they create pressure and dissatisfaction? Are any of these influences controlling you and your life to the detriment of your own health?


3. Align with Your Values

Compare the identified influences with your heart’s true desires and your inner Truth. Are your actions and decisions aligned with what you truly believe in, or are they swayed by external pressures? Understanding this alignment (or lack thereof) is key to making authentic choices.



Staying True to Yourself

Review External Influences

Once you have a clearer understanding of external influences and their impact, it’s important to stay true to yourself. Here are some strategies to help you maintain your authenticity:


1. Set Boundaries

Establish clear boundaries to protect your personal values and beliefs. Communicate these boundaries to family, friends, and others in your life. Boundaries help you maintain control over your decisions and actions.


2. Practice Self-Reflection

Regular self-reflection helps you stay in tune with your inner self. Set aside time each day or week to reflect on your actions, decisions, and whether they align with your true desires. Journaling can be a helpful tool for this practice.


3. Seek Supportive Relationships

Surround yourself with people who respect and support your values and decisions. Positive relationships can provide encouragement and validation, helping you stay true to yourself.


4. Limit Media Consumption

Be mindful of your media and social media consumption. Choose content that aligns with your values and interests, and limit exposure to sources that create unrealistic expectations or negative comparisons.


The Benefits of Authenticity

Benefits of understanding external influences

Staying true to yourself by understanding and managing external influences offers numerous benefits:

  • Increased Confidence: Making choices that align with your heart’s desires boosts your energy, and therefore, your strength to follow your dreams. Your self-esteem, confidence, self-value and worth all begin to grow, along with so many other positive aspects.


  • Greater Fulfillment: Living authentically leads to a deeper sense of satisfaction and fulfillment. And you simply want more of it! 


  • Better Mental Health: Reducing the pressure to conform to external expectations can lower stress and anxiety. And can drive your inner power and willingness to make the necessary shifts in your life for the better.


  • Stronger Relationships: Authenticity fosters genuine connections with others who appreciate and respect the real you. 


Like energy attracts like energy. This is fact!  So be sure to understand, reflect and shift what is needed in your life in order to bring forward what it is that your heart desires. It’s up to you to do what you can to maintain a clear, confident self-image and to choose authentically for yourself. 


Stay True to yourself

Fill up your tank, and get ready to reflect and stay true to yourself as we continue our journey at the Mirror Mirror rest stop!


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